Jrjw, anyone that's the least bit kind, honest, conscientious and somewhat neurotic are easy pickings for the JW narcissist spiritual bullies, aka police. Things improved for me dramatically when I started putting my foot down and having my boundaries met. Personal space and boundaries are a foreign concept to many JW's. Look it up you'll be amazed. Not saying this is you Jrjw but a decade of someone trying to get the upper hand on you is quite enough. I went through same myself with the overbearing obese 'brother' I studied with. I switched congs. a year and a half later to get away from him only to have another group of fine specimens try the same move on me in the new location. Is just how JW's are trained, always looking for someone to push down on and criticize.
PS : The fat brother is an Elvis fan, so roll over Beethoven !